Take a second right now, and think of a time you were truly inspired by somebody. Really, go ahead. I’ll wait for a second… Now, let me ask you. When that person inspired you, were they doing something they were really good at?
My guess is yes.
Any time I’ve ever been inspired by another person they were operating in their strengths. When people start doing more of what they do well, and less of what they don’t, everyone wins.
This is your life. Find out what you’re good at, and pour yourself into it. Don’t let your ADHD, or what other people tell you about your ADHD, stop you from getting in touch with your passion, or doing what you are really good at.
There Is A Better Way
For those with ADHD often the practical details of life can sweep them off their feet. In attempts to recover, they pour all resources into skills they don’t necessarily have natural ability to do well. They set off with good intentions, but it doesn’t yield the payoff they were looking for.
There is a better strategy that not only is more meaningful, but yields better results, and is more fulfilling. A Strengths-Based Approach is the best approach to ADHD. Here are three strategies for adhd that will change your approach to ADHD, so you can start operating more in your strengths, enhance your sense of purpose, and impact the world in a positive way with your talent.
1. Stop Trying To Fix The Things You Aren’t Good At
If you have ADHD, you may find that upkeep on the practical tasks of life isn’t necessarily your strong suit. That’s okay.
If you’re experiencing disappointment for not being able to accomplish goals, or for not following through, or not managing your calendar, or not doing the dishes, or any other regulatory task that helps practical life move along, don’t let it crush you.
These little tasks still need to get done, but a different approach is what you need. If your strategy for the small things is to just try harder, stop immediately. That’s just going to contribute more momentum for a downward spiral, the next time you slip up.
Focusing on the things you aren’t good at and trying to fix them, is an ineffective way to accomplish your goals, and leads to being overwhelmed.
The reason it’s important to stop this approach is that you’re going to need the energy, so don’t waste it feeling bad about not being organized enough, etc.
2. Start Focusing On What You’re Good At
Are there times when you’ve noticed another person working harder to achieve something you find easy? What do you do well? What are some things you naturally care about? What are you passionate about?
Our culture can often overlook how valuable self-investment can be. It’s too worried about how much you can do, do, do. Don’t listen. The best investment you can ever make is in yourself and what you’re good at. Utilizing your strengths is your right, not utilizing them is an injustice, to yourself and to others.
Trying to fix the things you’re not good at wastes the energy you could be investing in your strengths.
Your Strengths are what give you traction because they allow you to do the things you do well already. Focusing on anything else just leads to spinning your wheels.
So dig deeper at what you love, and spend the time finding out why. Don’t listen to our culture, go find out who you are. For those with ADHD, the devil is often in those details, because of how many people with ADHD get stuck in them, and can’t find enough momentum to give life everything they got.
3. Get A System Of Support
Breaking old systems of behavior takes accountability, and you are going to need assistance implementing a new strengths-based approach. Reaching out for support is the best strategy I know for dealing with the, “Just-Try-Harder” syndrome. It’s not enough that you just try harder. You need a different strategy. Reaching out for support is a bit like showing yourself that you’re valuable and that you’re worth it.
Sometimes it’s hard to admit you aren’t good at certain things, but if you can allow yourself to be honest, freedom will spring up. Freedom to get started on your passion and what you find most meaningful.
There are ADHD coaches who can assist you on your journey, as you shift the weight of your goals onto what you’re good at. The important thing is to find those who specialize in a strengths-based model.
If you are in the Los Angeles area, we would love the opportunity to help you start shifting the foundation of your life so that it can rest on your strengths, on your weaknesses.
ADHD COLLECTIVE creates customized strategies and systems to help build your life around what you’re good at, in order to achieve the momentum needed to accomplish your life goals.
More ADHD Resources
Adult ADHD, Children with ADHD, treatment, tests, blogs, directories, nutrition tips and diet, study skills, etc. ADDitude is an explosion of resources. I can’t think of one thing this website is lacking.
Psychology Today is a great resource for selecting someone in your area who can support you in your journey with ADHD. Just click on the link and put in your zip code to view options in your city.